“Mother/daughter team Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson will carefully walk you through difficult conversations, one topic at time. Speaking from personal experience, informed by child development research, these two moms offer practical insights and age-appropriate guidance. Talking about tough topics may not be as hard as you think, and, more important, you’ll see how these conversations can lead to meaningful discussions of God’s unchanging goodness.”
Answering Your Kid’s Toughest Questions is an important book, and does just what it says – giving parents suggestions and guidance in discussing difficult topics with their children. The book tackles death, sexuality, violence, and even challenging bible stories, and does so from a solid Christian basis.
I particularly like how the authors break down each topic into three different age groups (preschool, 5-10, 11 and up), giving the parents ideas on how to talk to each group of children on their level. And, it does so in a way that is respectful to child asking the questions, and respectful of the person “committing” the sin. At the beginning of the book, and throughout the suggested dialogue, the authors remind the child (and the parents reading the book!) that sin is about loving someone/something above God as a prelude to the discussion. For example, in the part of the book where sexual sin is discussed, one of the answers begins as:
“Everybody does things they think will make them happy. Sometimes you take toys that are not yours because you want to play with them and you think they will make you happy. You know that taking toys is wrong and that God tells you not to do it…” (page 108)
Also, although I read the book from cover to cover for this review, it is not required. You can easily skip around the book reading the topics most interesting or applicable to your situation and your child’s questions. Think of the book as a handbook and have it near when you need help answering your child’s questions!
Overall, the book is well-written and very helpful. I do have to admit, coming from a Catholic Christian perspective, I missed the inclusion of Church teaching (particularly from the Catechism) and wisdom from the saints. Not that I was expecting them, mind you, knowing the book is written from a different Christian perspective; and really, the book does a wonderful job dealing with formidable topics that are hard to discuss with children without them.
I absolutely recommend the book and give it four (4) stars.
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