Book Review: Winning the Discipline Debates by Dr. Ray Guarendi


Winning the Discipline Debates is a handbook of sorts where Dr. Ray “coaches parents to make discipline less frequent, less frustrating and more consistent.”  Using his characteristic humor and no-nonsense style, Dr Ray lays out typical various scenarios in dialogue format then re-states the situation with suggestions on how to respond.

For example, Chapter 11 is “I’m Honest, Honest” which deals with lying. Dr Ray sets the actors (dad, eleven year old, seven year old, etc), the scene (in this case the bedroom) and time (which in this case is bedtime). Then he gives a typical conversation and example of how most parents would handle the situation. After that he gives an epilogue where he explains the situation and offers a different tactic in dealing with the child(ren).

This book is very insightful and helpful. There were so many situations that I found myself laughing about because I have been through them with Andrew (he has a knack for avoiding bedtime at all costs!). And although I read this book from cover to cover for this review, you don’t have to do that at all. You can easily skip from situation to situation as they pertain to your family. Or, you can read it straight through – you will get a lot out of the book either way.

I give Winning the Discipline Debates four (4) stars.


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  1. This sounds like a book I could use…. :/
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    • SimpleCatholic says

      I hear ya! The book came just in time for me because I was (am) on my last rope with Andrew. He is just so stubborn, strong-willed and has fits for the craziest reasons – and he’s almost 8! I gleaned a lot of tips in this book that I think will help me in dealing with him.

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